Message by Counsellor Amoquandoh
For my experience years in counselling ministry as a marriage counsellor, I have come to realize that many of our young men especially in Christendom make a lot of mistakes in the way of their approach, in their proposal of marriage love.
Is unwise as a man who sincerely desires for marriage to meet a lady in the church or any form of gathering and less than a month you rush to tell the lady that I love you and want to marry you, and within the same week or two you are expecting the feedback.
May I please advise you freely from my heart, that no rational being lady who’s senses are intact will be a fool to give you a positive answer to your request, except a lady who is looking for a nine-day wonder relation.
A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother. –Proverbs 18:24
I suggest that before a brother proposes to a lady he wants to marry, they must first develop natural relation, by a close relationship through acquaintance which is a slight knowledge of the person. From the acquaintance, you move to a casual friendship then to a bosom or close or good-friendship stage.
This stage will help you to know much about her spiritual background, family and also her educational background even her future vision as well.
At least if you are able to apply wisdom to get to know each other within 90 days or more it will be impossible for a lady to reject your true proposal if you have attached serious prayer because the Holy Bible says; the heart of every person is in the hand of God.
The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD, as the rivers of water: he turneth it whithersoever he will. –Proverbs 21:1
After haven’t patiently allowed the above qualities or stage to build two of you together, then you can go ahead to tell her your main purpose of becoming acquainted with her.
After she has accepted your proposal of love in marriage, then you move on to another crucial stage of your relationship which we normally call courtship or special dating, it comes with emotional involvement and has the potential of leading to marriage.
Stay tuned for more.
God bless you.